Personality Characteristics of Cheaters that You Should Look Out for
Cheating within relationships is one of the leading causes behind why those relationships fall apart. Creating is not restricted among people who are just dating, in fact, statistics show that a surprisingly large number of marriages break apart due to cheating. Adultery is also one of the leading causes cited in fault divorce cases. But what makes a person cheat?
The act of cheating is relatively a common phenomena that most people experience at some point in their lives. That is not necessarily because more people cheat than not, but rather a case of not knowing which person is a cheater versus who isn't.
Ultimately, there is no real justification behind entering into a relationship or formal marriage contract with a person, just to cheat on them and lead to a dissolution of that relationship. It also isn't the job of the spouse or partner to prevent their counterpart from cheating, but rather the priority of the cheater to not break their lover's trust. Over the years, people have gathered various telltale signs that a person may be a cheater and therefore, a bad candidate to enter into any long term relationship with.
What Makes a Cheater Cheat?
The reasons behind why a cheater cheats can be as varied as the number of people who indulge in the act, but there are some common characteristics that can help people in telling whether a person will cheat or not. And one of these reasons may have to do with genetics.
Richard E. Friedman, a professor of clinical psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College conducted tests on two kinds of rodents, one that was usually promiscuous, and another that were usually monogamous, in order to determine why these species behaved differently.
He studied the Montane voles, known for being promiscuous as well as the Prairie voles, known for being monogamous. What he discovered was that the level of vasopressin in the brains of these rodents affected whether they were monogamous or not. Based on these findings, he suggested that the receptor genes related to bonding in partners, specifically oxytocin and vasopressin played a role in the development of monogamous relationships versus relationships where one or both partners cheat.
While this theory may play a role behind why a person cheats, this does not help people determine whether a potential romantic partner will cheat on them or not. In order to determine that, a person needs to watch out for certain personality traits or characteristics that can act as easy giveaways regarding whether a person is likely to cheat on their partner or not.
What are the most common characteristics of cheaters?
While not every cheater will exhibit every trait in this list, if a person exhibits more of these traits than not, there may be cause for concern in that relationship:
- Narcissism: This characteristic constantly ranks high in every list that seeks to find common traits among cheaters. What a person needs to be vary of is that if a person is self obsessed, then they are very likely to go looking for more people to feed that obsession and thereby cheat. Narcissism is not the same as self love, but rather an extreme form of self love to the point where the needs and wants of the self shadow the needs and wants of the partner.
- Insecurity: A person who does not feel secure within themselves, or in their relationship, can keep looking for people to fill that void and constantly offer security.
- Skewed Views on Reality: Such behavior involves creating narratives that justify or even try to normalize cheating, in an attempt to prove that the cheating behavior is okay. An example is a person who believes that everyone cheats, so cheating is okay. Everyone doesn't cheat and cheating is not okay.
- No respect: If the partner is disrespectful, rude, a gaslighter, or they look down on their counterpart, then they already show a lack of respect for the relationship. Such behavior often transfers into cheating.
- Adrenalin: Some people claim that the rush of being caught or getting away with cheating inspires them to indulge in the act.
Cheating is an act that can leave another person feeling dejected, demoralized and in some cases, even depressed. There is a need to properly gauge what a potential partner is like before entering into a relationship with them. If a partner is disrespectful, only seems to care about themselves, freely flirts with others and shows a lack of respect for what their counterpart wants, they are more than likely to be a cheater.