Tips for Talking to Exes While in a Relationship
The world is shrinking. Apart from getting connected by technological advancements such as the Internet, and communication channels such as telephones, Skype, and so on, we happen to meet people again and again. Even if we want to avoid some of the people, the chances of meeting them often or stumbling upon them have become quite high.
For example, you may want to avoid the ex-boyfriend of your girlfriend, but chances of meeting him are still there. Not only that, your girlfriend may still be talking to her ex-boyfriend. What should you do about this? Should you be worried or should you take it lightly? Let us find out.
Think with a cool head
You may have found out that your girlfriend is talking to her ex. If you think with a cool head, you will understand the fact that talking to exes while in a relationship is not a sin at all. Your girlfriend may have wanted to make casual inquiries about his welfare. So, she may have talked to him. Even if you go and tell your friends or some of the experts and make a statement like "My Girlfriend Still Talks to Her Ex," they are likely to laugh at you. They may even go to the extent of advising you or pointing out to you that she is decent enough to inquire about the welfare of her ex and that is the reason she is having a casual chat with him.
But if your girlfriend talks to ex quite often, you have a strong and valid reason to worry about this. It is certainly not good because you have been showering your love on her. But she still chooses to talk to her ex and this may be frustrating. It may even make you angry. But remember that you should not make any decision when you are gripped with emotions such as anger. You should make purposeful efforts to think with a composed mind so you can find out the right solution for tackling this issue.
Talking to her frankly can be the best solution
Experts advise that talking to your girlfriend and expressing your feeling about her behavior can be the best solution in this matter. You have all along been having a great relationship with her. You may have had several exciting and goosebump-inducing experiences also during the course of the relationship. Such experiences may have as well strengthened your love for her.
Hence, leaving her or separating from her cannot be the right solutions. In fact, such decisions may be very tough for you. So, your focus should only be to continue the relationship. Hence, it is better to have a frank discussion with her. If your girlfriend has as much love for you as you have for her, she will realize that talking to her ex quite frequently is a mistake. Since she loves you sincerely, she may decide to stop that habit.
On the other hand, there are women who revolt and question the motives of their boyfriends who try to discuss this with them. If your girlfriend also belongs to this type, you may find it difficult to convince her. In fact, your approach may harden her stance.
She may become more adamant and insist that it is her personal wish and you have no business to interfere in it. In this context, you should take into account several factors. One of the factors is whether you love her so much that you cannot even think of separating from her. If you think that by parting with her the Heaven will not fall on Earth, you can go ahead and bid adieu to your relationship with her. But if you think that parting with her is an impossible proposition, you should tolerate her behaviors even if she continues to talk to her ex.