Your 20s are perhaps the best time of your life. You’re young, probably employed and still have a lot of time to figure out what you want to do with your life. Now, while everything else in your life is fine and dandy, there is an area of your life that could prove to be trickier than the rest – dating and relationships.
Here’s the thing about dating in your 20s - you’ll have your heart broken, you’ll break some hearts, and you’ll have relationships that will make you question your priorities. It’s imperative that you learn as much as you can during your 20s because these are the years that will really affect how the rest of your life turns out. So, here are 10 dating rules in your 20s that you need to follow:
- You’re not wasting your time by not being sure if they are “the one”
You must remind yourself that not every relationship you get into has to be serious. What’s important is that you have fun, especially since you are still so young. There is plenty of time to be serious later. So, don’t spend your time worrying if your partner is the one you will end up with forever. Instead, enjoy your time with them and take things as they come.
- Don’t stay in a relationship just because you’re comfortable with it
One of the biggest dating mistakes you can make is convincing yourself that you are happy in a relationship when you are clearly not, just because you have already invested a lot of time and effort in it. You should understand that there is a difference between being happy and being comfortable. Don’t stay in a relationship you’re unhappy with only because of the fear of being alone again.
- You should never have to change but you should learn to adapt
No relationship should ever change the essence of who you truly are as a person. You have to accept each other as you are, with your flaws and imperfections. However, for any relationship to work out, it is important to understand that you have to adapt and compromise. Meet each other halfway for a healthy relationship.
- Don’t compare your love life or lack thereof to anyone else’s
Always keep in mind that comparing yourself and your situation to others will not do you any good, nor will it give you the insight you are looking for. It does not matter if all your friends are dating or single, nor does it matter if you haven’t had a relationship and you’re already in your 20s. Just be you, and take things at your own pace.
- You really don’t have to post everything about your relationship on social media
Sure, it’s nice to show some PDA every now and then and show how much you appreciate your significant other. But you really don’t have to post every single detail about your relationship on social media. If you feel the constant need to post pictures of your dates with mushy captions, you better re-evaluate your relationship in the first place. It’s better to keep some parts of your life private and your relationship is one of them.
- If they’re just not that into you, the signs don’t lie
People will make it clear if they’re just not into you. Even if they don’t say it to you directly, their actions won’t lie. If they do not call you back after a first date, text you or make any sort of effort, then don’t waste your time and energy trying to make them fall for you.
- Learn to be more open and step out of your comfort zone
This does not mean that you should not have standards when it comes to dating. It simply means that you should be fun and adventurous. Give chances to people who you think are “not your type”. Even if it does not turn out well, you always learn something about yourself.
- It’s okay to end a relationship if you want change
Your wants and goals will never be constant in your life. Especially during your 20s, when you are discovering yourself, what you wanted 3 years back may be different from what you want today. If you feel that your current relationship is not taking you to the path of reaching your goals or the relationship itself is something you do not want, don’t feel bad ending it.
- Don’t hook up with your friends
It’s never a good idea to hook up with friends. It will only complicate your friendship. If it does not work out well, things would only get weird between you two. It would also put your other mutual friends in an awkward position.
- Learn to enjoy your own company
Perhaps the most important dating advice for your 20s is that you should learn to enjoy your own company. Don’t be afraid to be alone; there is nothing wrong with it. As cliché as it may sound, do