We all dream of having a perfect romantic relationship. However, there is no such thing as a perfect romantic relationship and even the ones that come close didn’t get there just like that. Romantic relationships achieve near-perfection when both partners put in the effort to make it happen.
So, yes, even relationships need effort. They don’t just workout on their own. However, the good news is that you don’t have to exactly move mountains to enjoy a healthy relationship. According to psychologists, it’s the small things that matter. As they say, small drops can make an ocean and that’s how it is for relationships.
Something as simple as saying thank you can do wonders. If you’re curious, here are a few things you can do to become a better partner.
Tell your partner you love him/her
Now, we’ve all heard that actions are louder than words, but that obviously doesn’t mean words have no value. A smart partner aims to strike the right balance between the two. In fact, words are far clearer when compared to actions in getting the message through.
So, take the time to make your feelings known to your partner. Just saying something as simple as “I love you” can go a long way in making your partner feel loved and appreciated. It lets them know that they’re wanted, which can boost their sense of security in the relationship.
Physical intimacy is important in a relationship and no, we aren’t just talking about sex. There are several other physical acts out there that can serve as a display of affection. This could be something as simple as putting a hand on your partner’s back or placing your arm on his/her shoulder.
Acts of physical intimacy tell your partner that you love and cherish them. Like the experts say, it’s the little things that matter.
Be a man/woman of action
There are specific behaviors that go a long way in cementing relationships. They are called relationship maintenance behaviors, which, ideally, should come naturally. However, that doesn’t mean you can’t engage in them in a more intentional manner. The effect can still be the same.
According to research, there are around 6 such behaviors. Let’s look at a few of them and see how they can be applied.
- Understanding: Being understanding is one of the most important relationship behaviors you need to express in order to maintain your relationship. In order to be perceived as an understanding partner, you need to listen, apologize, forgive, and stay away from passing judgment.
- Positivity: Be the positive partner in a relationship. This means expressing pleasure and happiness whenever you’re with your better half.
- Assurance: Comfort your partner with assurance. Discuss the future of the relationship and tell your partner that they’re important to you.
- Openness: Be open. Talk about your wants and needs in the relationship.
- Share: Be a sharing partner. Share everything, from household responsibilities to your emotions.
- Gratitude: Be thankful. Tell your partner that you appreciate what he/she is doing for you and that you're blessed to have them in your life.
Focus on health
This might be an odd suggestion, but your health does impact your ability to be a good partner. Research shows that getting enough sleep or eating healthy can actually have a positive impact on your romantic life.
For instance, eating healthy requires a lot of self-control and one way to develop self-control is to restrict yourself from eating junk.
But, it doesn’t end there. Once self-control becomes one of your more inherent characteristics, the benefits can seep into other aspects of your life, such as your romantic relationship.
In fact, studies prove that couples with self-control enjoy a stronger and healthier bond.