Nervous sweating, struggling to find the right words, being anxious about what the other person is thinking - these are all symptoms of dating, and they don't only happen when we are young. Most of us hope that we can be done with the dating part of life when we are young, but life doesn't always conform to our wishes. We go through break ups, make ups, divorces and heart break even when we have a few decades behind us, and many of us find ourselves in the dating pool in our ripe old 50's.
So, is it harder dating in your 50's? let's break down the difficulties of dating in our 50's and see what comes up:
1. Finding a date – that is where most of the people who want to get back into the dating world struggle with – where can they find a date? Clubs are loud, bars are drinking holes and starting a new job and meeting someone there isn't really possible when you are 50. What's left is relying on friends to introduce you to potential love interests and also dating sites and dating apps that can be a great place to meet new people with the exact qualities you are looking for. Nowadays there are specific dating sites for people in their 50's where you can define the age of the person you are looking for, their interests, hobbies and much more, so your perfect match can be right around the corner.
2. Taking it slowly – some people who are in their 50's may feel pressure to get into a serious relationship but it's important not to put that kind of pressure on yourself and on your date. Dating at any age takes patience. It can take a few dates until you find someone you have a connection with, and when you do, you should take things at a pace that is comfortable for the both of you, so you can get to know each other and form a true bond.
3. Combining lives – many people in their 50's have children and grandchildren that need to adjust to a situation where their parent/grandparent is dating around. If you are one of these people, you know how hard it can be to combine two worlds, so you should also do it slowly and only when the time is right. Remember – you are not the only person who is adjusting to you dating – your family and friends need to get used to it too.
So, do any of these problems sound familiar? Finding someone you are compatible with? Finding the right pace? Merging two worlds? That's right – the problems of dating in your 50's are the same ones you had in your 20's and 30's. Finding someone to fall in love with and want to spend time with isn't easy at any age.
When you date in your 50's remember to be safe, first of all, especially if you meet someone in a dating site. People these days are more comfortable with lying about themselves than ever, so you have to keep safe. Run a people search or a reverse phone number search on the person you are considering dating to make sure they really are who they say they are. Then, try to keep an open mind and only do things that you feel comfortable with. Don't put pressure on yourself, and you can be certain that the 'burden' of dating in your 50 suddenly disappears and what you are left with is opportunities to meet new people and have fun. That's what life is all about, at any age.