The relationships we form take up a large part of our lives, and that’s why it’s so important for us to keep them all healthy. They love and cherish us just like we love and cherish them. However, it’s not always that easy to keep your relationships healthy. No matter how hard you try, there will always be an argument that ruins everything or a metaphorical wall that you could run into. There aren’t just white and black areas as far as relationships are concerned. There is usually, also a very real Grey area. A relationship takes a lot of understanding and work from both the parties. There are certain things you can do in order to ensure that your relationship is still healthy though. Here are a few.
1. Put some work into it
The relationship only works if both parties are willing to put in the time and effort to keep it alive. If you leave a relationship in a vacuum, there isn’t much that could happen. Either the relationship dies or you change in an inconceivable way. A successful relationship has communication in the bag. Both partners should be able to talk about how they feel about the other without reserve.
2. Never try to change your partner
Everyone has an essence to them. No matter what you change outwardly, you’ll never be able to change their inner essence. So why even try? In your relationship, instead of trying to change your partner, rather make them want to change themselves in order to be with you. If you find something about your partner uncomfortable or awkward, rather than trying to play mind games with them to fix it, put the problem on the table and make your partner aware of it.
3. Fights generally stem from fear or pain
All couples have occasional fights. This isn’t an unusual occurrence. Remember that when you and your partner fight, it isn’t each other that you’re fighting, but the problem that caused the argument in the first place. Rather than talking over each other, and proving who’s better than who, try to fix the immediate problem at hand. Explore why you feel the way you feel about your partner. Is it caused by fear or anger that has been deeply rooted?
4. Accept and appreciate your partner
The two most important keys in any successful and strong relationship are appreciation and acceptance. Keep your expectations real for your relationship. Instead of always expecting things from your partner, try to appreciate and accept them for who they are.
5. Don’t forget about novelty
A lot of relationships dwindle out when the initial excitement has subsided. Don’t let this happen. Instead of sticking to the same activities you do together, try something new. This way, you always keep learning new things about the person you’re with every day. Exploring new activities together will also introduce a spark of excitement in your relationship. Doing an unknown activity with unknown outcomes with a well-known person is always interesting.
6. Honor your partner every day
This might be hard when you’re in a long-term relationship and you know all there is to know about your partner already. But find a way to appreciate and honor them. Make a decision to recommit to your partner each morning. Understand that you’re loved, respected, and cherished by your partner.
7. Friendship is key
No matter the fate of your relationship, remember that you are also really good friends. Best friends are said to make the best partners in the long run. So find the friendship in your relationship.
Most of all, don’t always expect the other person to make you happy. You are responsible for your own happiness. Instead of counting on your partner to always make you happy, figure out what makes you happy as an individual. Your relationship shouldn’t be the main source of your happiness.