Dating can be very challenging these days; your local watering holes aren't always the best places to meet people, parties are overrated, and your friends don’t always have people they can introduce to you. So, what's left? That's right – your workplace. It's pretty tempting to date someone you work with, but a lot of people aren't sure if it's possible or even legal. If you are considering asking out one of your coworkers, you should read this article and find out – should you date someone from your work?
First of all – can you date someone from your work?
Before jumping into the, "should", you have to pass the "could" part of dating coworkers. The answer to that is pretty simple – yes, you can go out with your co-workers, unless your place of employment strictly prohibits you from doing so. If it is, you're not breaking any national laws, but the rules of your place of work, so, be aware of the dating policy where you work. Otherwise, it's ok to date one of your co-workers.
One other exception is dating someone that answers to you, or that you answer to, meaning bosses. Most places won't take kindly to relationships between a manager or someone an employee answers to because it may cause problems. This type of relationship can be argued as a use of power to make someone date the boss, and also, if the relationship goes south, the employee can argue their boss harassed and forced them to engage in a sexual relationship. Like any other thing in life, there have been exceptions where managers married one of their employees and had a good relationship, but it's hard to find these types of cases nowadays.
Should you date a coworker?
After you realized that yes, you could date a co-worker, you have to think about whether or not you should do it. Looking at couples that met in the workplace, it is recommended that you keep an eye out for someone in your workplace that can be a good match for you. If you are lucky enough to find such a person, make sure you play by the following rules and who knows? You could end up in a long-term relationship:
1. Give it time – if you see someone at work that you like for the first time, don't ask them out immediately. Let them get to know you a bit and also get to know them so you can have a solid foundation to build a relationship on.
2. Be respectful – if you want to ask out a co-worker, be respectful and let them know how you feel. Ask them for a nice cup of coffee and be willing to take "no" for an answer.
3. Keep it separate – if you start dating a co-worker, remember that your place of work is not the place to act on your feelings. When you're at work, act as coworkers, and when you leave work, you're free to do what you want.
4. Keep it to yourself – if you are going out with a co-worker, keep it to yourself, and don’t run off and tell everyone what you guys are up to. Even if you're close with other coworkers, you don't want to become the subject of office rumors. So, keep things to yourself, at least in the beginning.
5. Notify your boss – if the relationship between you and a coworker gets serious, tell your boss about it, together. Go into their office and notify them of your relationship so they will be aware of what is going on. Some places will have you sign a document regarding your relationship so your place of work won't be held reliable to anything that goes on, so don't be surprised if that happens.