We reveal how much to share on your datesDates can be intimidating. On the other hand, it can be exciting as well. The not knowing what is in store, the feel of being a teenager again, the butterflies in the stomach all adds to the excitement and nervousness of the first date. It is in a way journey to the unknown but it is true in both ways. The other party on the date also does not know much about you. That brings us to a big question how much should you share on your date. Here are some dating tips for you on the subject.
Find The Key Points: Sharing about yourself can be tricky. There are so many things about you. Where to start and where to end that is a big decision. Try to find some positive points for which the other persons wants to stay with you. Let us get one thing very clear some person wants to date for fun while someone else dates to be settled for life.
Which group do you belong? Based on that you will know what to share and how much to share. So if you are the second type, you may want to share your broad future goals and if you are of the first type you may want to share how you used to have fun in high school.
Keep the Serious Talk at Minimum: It is not taboo to talk about serious stuff like divorce or having kids job etcetera, but you should keep them at distance. Share about yourself only what is needed. Yes, you are divorced this much is enough and it should not go what it was liked during the divorce, how painful it was or it was all your partner’s fault.
Like for job also, you do not need to brag about how much you love or bitch about how much you hate your job. The kid is a good topic but if it is coming to the complex custodial story, keep the story at bay.
Ask Questions As Well: It is one of the important dating tips of all time. Do not just share about your self. Ask questions about your date too. Do not just show interest in their lives, be actually interested and you will see asking the right questions will be much easier. The process of dating is more about sharing than anything. So share and let your date share.
Sex – Keep It Low: On dates, especially on the first date when you sharing about yourself, keep the sex on the low side. You can be very open about sex and there is nothing wrong with it at all, but the first couple of dates is more about knowing each other.
If you bring sex early in the table it will give a wrong impression about you. Unless of course, you both found out that both of you are looking for the same thing. Otherwise, it is wise to keep it low.
Silence Breakers: the First couple of dates, after a few topics, it is alright if silence comes. It is natural. It does not mean that you need to start sharing more than you want to break the silence. At those time there is some casual topic you can bring up like music or movies or any joke you have heard in the office. Even then if the silence not breaking, ask about the food you two are having.
How much should you share on your date is a tough question indeed. The best advice would be to identify what you do not want to disclose and what you should share. By following the rules, you will be ok on the date. Enjoy and hope you have a great time.