Improve Your Relationship with These Tips!
Being happy in a relationship can seem like a lot of work. There are always things to work on in a relationship, no matter whether it’s going strong or is experiencing conflict. There are always things that you can do to make an already good relationship great. Here are a few tips you can use to improve happiness as well as intimacy in a relationship.
1. Don’t always assume that your partner knows what you want
Communication is one of the main key ingredients to a happy relationship. Don't just think that your partner knows what you want and that he/ she is not giving it to you on purpose. Not only does this breed resentment, but also disappointment on both sides. Talk openly about what you'd like and prefer.
Not knowing something without it being said doesn't mean that your partner doesn't care for you. It just means that he/she is not a mind reader. This is also very much a two-way street. Don't assume what your partner wants. You might be right, but there's never harm in asking.
2. Communication is key
When you’re at an impasse in your relationship, the best thing to do would be to talk it through. Waiting for something to pass on it's on only brings about disappointment. Remember that problems are often always a consequence of conversations that we refused to have in the first place. No matter what it’s about, you should be open enough to talk about it with your loved one. Do you have something on your mind? Never wait for it to go away, it will come back and bite you. Talk about it so you can get an agreeable solution.
3. Kill with kindness
When approaching a topic that makes you feel uncomfortable or paints the other person in the red, it’s often easier to start with a compliment to soften the blow. Discuss the problem you face and end with another kind remark.
4. Make time
Most relationships tend to dwindle because of the lack of quality time spent together. No matter how busy your schedule is, set apart some time for your loved one. This not only further builds the bond that you’ve already built, but it also gives you time to unwind and relax with your loved one. Setting time apart shows that you care enough to try and be there.
5. Take responsibility
Don’t be stubborn. It’s not healthy for you or your relationship. As a mature adult, you need to be able to admit to and face your mistakes. Take responsibility for your behavior, no one else should. Instead of focusing on why you fought, think about how you contributed to it and how you can make it better.
6. Take a fight break
We usually don’t keep a clear mind when things start escalating. Learn to recognize this and take a little break so you can cool off and revisit the problem at hand once you’ve both had time to think. Always remember that it isn’t one another that you’re fighting, but the problem at hand. It’s never you against your partner, but the both of you against the conflict. Set a time to revisit the fight. i.e., ten o’ clock on Tuesday or in 30 minutes.
7. Use rationality
We usually begin to experience frustration when we think emotionally. If something you're a partner is doing upsetting or frustrating you, take a step back and take time to think about the rational reason behind it upsetting you. Never judge your partner automatically. He/ she usually wouldn't be doing it just to upset you.
No matter what you’re going through, without effective communication, you can’t hope to have a successful, problem-free relationship.