How to Break Up with a Cheater?
Relationships surely take time and effort. In a world where everyone seeks inspiration to do new things and live fully, it can take a toll on relationships. A good relationship works with trust and consistency.
Once you enter a relationship, there is a mutual understanding of commitment and loyalty. Unless you are in an open relationship, you would not appreciate if your partner dated other people when they are with you. With this understanding, relationships can get complicated and result in heartbreak.
Many people, despite being in relationships, cheat on their partner. Cheaters have many reasons as to why they do what they did. Either it was a one-time mistake, or they are just serial cheaters. No matter the case, cheating is not acceptable. Cheating undervalues the entire foundation of the relationship, making you lose trust in your partner. A relationship without trust is going to result in too many mind-games and painful moments.
How should you talk to your partner about cheating?
If you happen to find out that your partner has been cheating on you, you have every right to know the truth. The most appropriate way to know is to confront your partner. If they agree to the same and provide a valid explanation as to why they have created, you can then choose to evaluate whether their reason is excusable. Remember to not jump to conclusions. If you care deeply about your partner and wish to work through these issues, you can opt to do so.
If you believe that their infidelity is inexcusable, breaking up with the person is the best available option.
How to let them know?
It might not be the easiest conversation, but it is an important one. The best thing to do would be to advice yourself as you would with your friends. There is no right or wrong. The most important aspect is to ensure that your feelings are not hurt any further.
Remember your worth
When you are cheated on, it is natural to feel inadequate. You are not the reason for your partner’s shortcomings. It is not your responsibility to stop your partner from being unfaithful towards you.
A relationship is made up of two people. Both parties need to make an equal and consistent effort. Even when you’re in a successful and content relationship, it is very important that you are able to make yourself happy. Happiness need not be subjective to the relationship you are in. It is important to maintain your place in the outside world and carry on with your life, with or without your partner. If your partner has cheated on you once, there is a high possibility that they could do it again. You might want to see the positive side and give them a chance again, but no one knows the situation better than you do. You need to take charge of the circumstances and make a decision that will honor your future.
Listen to their side of the story but remember why you are breaking up
When starting a breakup conversation with a cheater, you have to let them say what they have to say. Not for their sake, but for your own. So, when you let your partner know that you are aware of their cheating, give them a chance to explain themselves. It will allow you to have a clearer mind in the future and have less "whys" buzzing in your mind. However, make it clear that your intention is to hear your partner's side of the story for your own peace of mind, and that you still want to break up. Once they are done saying what they have to say, be strong and end the relationship if you feel it is the best thing for you.
Look towards your friends for comfort
When someone cheats on you, it may feel like your whole world has shattered. It is okay to count on your friends or family rather than wallowing in self-pity. The faster you stop feeling sorry for yourself, the faster you will get back on your feet.
Erase memories that do not favor you
If you are affected by looking at gifts or photos that remind you of your partner, it is best to get rid of them altogether. If you have mutual friends, make a wise choice to avoid topics that involve your partner. As they say – out of sight, out of mind.
Breaking up with a cheater is never easy. Just believe in doing the best thing for your future self and get done with it. You are very special, with or without your partner.