How To End Things On Good Terms
You’ve decided that it’s time. Maybe your partner knows it too or maybe he/she doesn’t, but you’ve decided that your relationship has run its course. However, nothing happened to make you change your mind. Your partner didn’t do anything wrong like cheat or lie to you. You might have had a nagging feeling in your mind that you guys just don’t work together. Regardless of why you’re breaking up, one thing is clear if you’re reading this article, you want to end your relationship on good terms.
There isn’t any way you can control how your partner reacts. He/she might be completely blindsided with you saying this and might not take it all too well. Regardless, as an adult and as a former lover, you owe it to your partner to try and end things maturely. Here are a couple of things you can do to try to make sure you end things properly and hopefully on good terms.
- It’s very common for people to forget what they were meaning to say during a breakup. Prepare beforehand by practicing with a friend or in front of the mirror. Writing out whatever’s in your mind is also a good idea.
- Pick a place that’s convenient for both of you. Having them come somewhere far away from home only to be broken up with is a thoughtless move. Try doing it in public if you’re worried about your safety. Think of how you’d like your partner to break up with you and work your way up from there.
- Don’t be a coward and end things through email, text or over the phone. Do it right by telling them exactly what’s on your mind in person. Asking a friend to do it for you is off the table, no one is in high school anymore.
- If your partner asks you why you’re breaking up with them, it’s best to be honest with them. However, put a filter on your mouth. If you’re planning on seeing someone right after you’ve broken up with your partner, try leaving that out.
- Don’t try to let your partner down easier by suggesting to remain friends. Only suggest friendship if you’re truly willing to commit to being friends and nothing more. Attempting a friendship while one person still has romantic feelings for the other leads to more hurt feelings down the road. If you agree to remain friends, try staying away from each other for a while. Take a break and work on growing as an individual now that you’re no longer a couple.
- Do not let your partner try to convince you to stay together. Whether they try to guilt you or make you feel bad, stand firm with your decision. Feeling bad or guilty about what you’re doing or going to do to the other person is no reason to stay in a relationship.
No matter how you try to spin it, breakups are hard on at least one of the people involved in the relationship. Doing all of the above may not end things on good terms but it does give you the best possible chance to try to end things the right way.
One final bit of advice is to not try to keep your ex in your life. This is unfair to both of you because it makes it much harder for both of you to move on with your lives. Whether you end your relationship on good terms or not, you’ll at the very least be comfortable with the fact that you did everything you could to try and end the relationship on a high note.