Get Your Relationship Going with These Tips!
When you’re starting on a new relationship, there are certain things that you should keep in mind. Even though you like your partner, be careful as to not come off as too strong right from the beginning. It’s always good to take a step back and keep yourself in check when starting a relationship that you’re expecting to last.
In the beginning, you find yourself questioning and analyzing everything. This is normal and something we all do. From all the casual texts to hearty confessions, it’s very easy to get lost and not realize the things you want in a relationship, and what ultimately, satisfies you and makes you happy. Never get sidetracked by all the things you think your heart wants and forget to listen to your mind.
The mind plays as much an important when it comes to new relationships as the heart does. Here are some dos and don'ts to keep in mind when starting a new relationship.
Dos:1. Reduce the stress of meeting the parents
The best way to meet your partner's parents is at dinner parties: not necessarily intimate ones, but rather crowded dinner parties. This will reduce a lot of stress as you're not the center of attention. Your partner's parents will be rather preoccupied hosting the party and keeping the other guests happy.
When you're caught up in a new relationship, it's easy to lose track of how much time you spend with each other. Although this is not necessarily a wrong thing, it can alienate people that were otherwise close to you. Make sure that you allow a necessary amount of time to your loved ones. The 50-30-20 rule can be a good guideline. Don't spend more than 50% of your time with your partner. Spend 30% with friends and family, and take 20% for yourself. We all need some me-time. That time can also be when you clear your head, take a beat and think.3. Always stay true to yourself
Your values and your opinions are what makes you, you. They're the foundation of your personality. Never compromise on something you believe in just to please the other person. Although that may work in your favor, for the time being, rest assured that it will come back to bite you later.4. Make your boundaries known
It may be an uncomfortable conversation, but a necessary one. Talking about things is an important part of your relationship. Communication is a key ingredient in both a new as well as a long-term relationship.
The “what are we?” conversation is something that all relationships go through. But there is no need to worry about that just yet. Take it one step at a time. Breathe. If you're unsure about how to introduce your partner, sticking with just the name has never done anyone any wrong.2. Move too fast
Resist the urge to want to spend every second of every day together. Blowing through the honeymoon phase in the first month will do you no good. Recognize that you were a whole person of your own before your partner came along.3. Compare your new partner to your ex
Stay away from talking about other partners until you’re secure enough in your relationship. No one wants to hear about your ex, and bringing them up can raise some red flags.4. Pretend that your relationship is something it’s not
This is a mistake that is often made in a new relationship. You can easily build up something in your head. But that doesn't make it the reality. Know where to draw the line and always keep yourself in check.
Trust not something that should be given out freely. Both of you need to work towards it. Keep this in mind and proceed with caution.