It’s a fact – break-ups suck. If you could score them on a scale of a 1 to 10, they would probably score a nine. Maybe, even a ten. But, no matter how painful things get, we have to learn to move on. There is no point ruminating over things that have been said and done.
Your only option now is to look ahead and move forward. But, it’s not easy as it sounds. It’s going to take some time and patience. To make things a wee bit easier, here are a few tips.
Accept What Has Happened
The moment you realize that your relationship has ended can feel like hell. There is practically no word to describe it. But, that’s the whole point. It’s supposed to feel like that and moving on requires you to accept the pain. Never try to run away from it or bottle it up.
Embrace the sadness and the grief. So, cry if you have to. Reminisce if you have to. All of that can feel cathartic and eventually, you’ll set yourself free from the hurt and the anger.
No Getting Back or Remaining Friends
They say absence can make the heart grow fonder. However, that rarely happens. In fact, if you’re trying to get over a break-up, you need all the absence possible. It’s called giving yourself space and time. By doing so, you’re giving yourself an opportunity to process your feelings and assess what went wrong. More importantly, why it went wrong.
Now, the insights you gain may not help you fix the relationship, but it can definitely prepare you for future ones.
Anyway, getting back to the point of “no contact”, we suggest you take it very seriously. This means no texts, no emails, and definitely no social media stalking.
Establish a Support System
When in distress, humans automatically crave comfort and security. However, security and comfort aren’t going to just show up magically. You need people you can reach out to and connect with. Humans are social animals and we need the support that others can provide.
So, talk to your loved ones and friends about the breakup. Even if they can’t offer any actual solutions, they can, at the very least, offer a shoulder to cry on. Plus, knowing that there are people out there who care for you can definitely feel good.
At the same time, don’t unload your baggage on the same person. You need to divide it equally. One person can handle only so much, Plus, sharing your feelings with multiple people can evoke multiple perspectives. This can be, sometimes, be an enlightening and pleasant experience.
Get Back Up
An idle mind is a devil’s workshop and dealing with the pain can get stale after a point. This is when you need to get up and get on with life. So, do things you’ve always wanted to. There’s no point locking yourself up in a room and crying all day. Plus, getting back to a normal routine or doing something new can help you heal faster. You’ll have something to look forward to and also learn that your relationship was just one tiny part of life.
Get back to the way things were. In fact, we suggest that you start looking for a new partner. Finding someone new and even better can definitely bring back a little bit of the sunshine in your gloomy life. However, before you do that, make sure you’ve healed properly. There is no point in jumping into another relationship with the ex still on your mind.