Children bring a lot of joy into our lives. They are mischievous little things and they keep us young. They do and say a lot of adorable things that we can’t help but laugh at and love. Children are little blessings and little bundles of joy. Some, however, are simply not seen that way. A lot of children are constantly left at fire stations and abandoned at hospitals because of different reasons. You are enriching a child’s life through adoption.
The process of adoption is a journey that you go through. Both very real as it is not often that easy a task, but also spiritual. You will be faced with multiple forks in the road but you can come out the other side if you make wise choices. Consider the steps in the adoption process very carefully and make a list of all your individual needs and goals in this journey you’re embarking on. It’s important to be clear on the process though. Here are a few steps that can help you along the way.
1. Do your homework
The first thing you’ll need to do is learn all there is to know about adoption. There are various types of adoption, so you’ll need to choose one that’s right for you. Why do you want to adopt? What kind of adoption best suits your current lifestyle? Here are some types of adoptions you could choose from:
- Adopt an older child or adopt a baby
- International vs. domestic adoption
- Closed, semi-open or open adoption
- Foster care or private adoption
This should be the first thing you decide on in this long journey you’re embarking on.
2. Do some research on the cost of the adoption
There are some solid costs involved in the process and it’s important that you make yourself aware of these costs. There are some factors that can affect the cost of adoption.
These factors are:
- The state that you live in
- Your preferred type of adoption
- The adoption professional that you choose
- The state that the birth mother is in
- The birth mother’s expenses that are pregnancy-related
The fees for your overall adoption can include:
- The fees for your adoption professional
- Pregnancy-related expenses for the birth mother
- Legal and travel expenses
- Homestudy costs
Your adoption professional is who advises you on all your steps. He/she will be the one guiding you throughout the whole adoption process. While some adoption professionals handle everything from beginning to end, some only handle the essential parts and you’ll have to do the rest. Your research should be thorough and precise when looking for an adoption professional.
4. Work with your adoption professional
Once you’ve settled on a professional, be cooperative. Don’t rush the process. Trust that your professional knows what they’re doing. They’ve done this before and that’s why they’re professionals. Be patient. All good things take time and so will this. There will be a shocking amount of paperwork that you’ll have to fill out. But your professional will guide you through it all. There are also certain questions that you’ll have to answer in order for your professional to do his/her job properly.
5. Locating a birth mother
Depending on your type of adoption, in most cases, you’ll have to find a suitable birth mother. Your professional will help you with this part. The parent first has to select you from the list of families that she’s presented with. Once she selects you, you’ll be given the option to either accept or reject the adoption. Once you accept, the adoption process will move along.
6. Prepare, and finalize!
Start decorating the nursery and buying all the necessary supplies. Once the baby is born, that little angel is yours to keep. Make sure you’re prepared.