The Top Causes of Divorce
When you first met your spouse, things seemed magical and special. After you both were married, suddenly that same partner whose quirky traits you once found so irresistible, are points of annoyance and irritation. You assume that patience, adapting and understanding will help them change, but most of the time this is an uphill battle. Then suddenly your partner decides to have a serious ‘talk’ with you and this when you hear the dreaded’ word- divorce!
Many couples experienced similar scenarios. While it isn’t uncommon to argue and fight over matter, it’s another thing when the effects of those quarrels don’t seem to bother one another. In other words, when your partner starts behaving indifferently towards you, your relationship is definitely in trouble.
According to the CDC, the divorce rate in the United States is 3.2 for every 1,000 people. The divorce rate has dropped by 18% between the years 2008 and 2016. Although this seems like great news, the marriage rate is declining as well. So what are the leading causes of divorce?
Listed below are the top 4 leading causes of divorce:
How many times have you heard someone getting divorced because they’re partner cheated on them? Unfortunately, this is a common occurrence amongst divorcing couples. Extramarital relationships are one of the top causes of divorce. The reasons why so many couples aren’t clear cut. Feelings of resentment and anger are a few underlying reasons, but sharing a lack of emotional intimacy and diversity in sexual appetites are often sighted.
Infidelity usually begins as a friendship. Suddenly this new friend becomes the source of all comfort and excitement. This emotional affair later transpires into a physical one; thus translating into infidelity.
Your spending and savings goals can have a huge impact on your marriage. Even when one spouse earns more money than the other can cause some struggles. Money often causes power struggles. Since it is such an important aspect of our lives, it influences everything. Where you live, what you eat, what you wear, etc. is determined by money. When you and your partner differ in how money should be saved, spent and invested, this can cause much marital discord. In fact, financial difficulties are sighted as the second causes of divorce today.
Absence of Communication
Communication is crucial in any relationship but especially in marriage. Being unable to communicate successfully with one another will lead to anger, frustration, and resentment. These negative feelings can spill into other areas of your life such as physical relations with your partner and intimacy. Relationships with poor communication often transpire into shouting and yelling matches, silent spells and expression of nasty comments either directly to your spouse or in your thoughts. Poor communication is often cited as the third leading causes of divorce.
Good communication helps build strong marriages. Sometimes seeking support from a marriage counselor, therapist or even a religious figure in your community can help you and your spouse improve your communication patterns.
Although it seems odd and a very superficial reason to file for a divorce, but weight gain is a common reason why some people choose to file for divorce. In some cases, one of the couples gains a significant amount of weight and appears less physically attractive to their partner. In addition, this weight gain causes marked changes in self-esteem which leads to problems in intimacy, communication and finally heads towards infidelity and divorce.
What are some other causes of divorce? Sadly, abuse, lack of preparedness and lack of equality in the marriage are the other common reasons cited for divorce.